Two or more competing incompatible inner “mandates” for behavior aimed at achieving approval, by someone using approval to feel alive.
In this method, there is a special situation described by ‘inner conflict.’ Children and adults who have been unable to develop a strong, stable sense of being an certain subconscious mandates, ‘things I must accomplish, or .’
Over time, people tend to adopt , which conflict with one another, or situations can come up in which satisfying one mandate means sacrificing success with another – for example, ‘practice until perfect, or leave now to be on time’.
Since so , the anxiety and stress such a ‘no way out’/’no-win’ conflict generates is out of proportion compared to the ordinary outcome of the intended action or behavior. A high degree of anxiety accompanying a seemingly relatively minor incident in life often indicates that more is going on beneath the surface. The anxiety can, in turn, lead to severe insomnia and other physical problems.