Dear Author of this blog post:
Thank you for a thoughtful, well-paced, and compassionate post:
Lots of insights. Lots of wisdom.
I appreciate your discernment too.
“Remember that part of their personality is the anxiety. Remember that part of them, the compilation of life experiences that they are made of, is the anxiety. It can have some benefits too, and many people with anxiety (when getting ‘better’) choose to see them. You should too.”
The role that “being anxious” plays makes for many a long rich conversation on the vast subject of the Sense of Self; and how it develops in a person. The Sense of Self that we have begins at a pre-verbal age doesn’t it? And, our mind, body, and amazing brain remember everything we experience consciously, subconsciously, or unconsciously. All of it whether we like it or not. More and more scientific research confirms it. Then, there is the stuff we can’t easily explain, but it feels just as real.
The work and cause we champion are that each person deserves to have a Healthy Sense of Self and anxiety which is part of being human, need not be a constant.
To have the ability to love in the first place, remain objective and detached (enough), and drop the stories our minds instinctually make up is a skill we can develop at any age. Ideally, we learned emotional intelligence as we developed from youth to adulthood.
It’s ideal to love people for who they are (even the seemingly simplest person is multi-faceted!) and without judgment. Judgment and critique will happen for the ego will see to that, but the question is how quickly will I drop it and reset myself to love their true essence. This work is some of the hardest inner work I know I do and it shows in how I relate to most all people and how they relate to me–be they full of anxiety or not.
Because of the anxious people in my family of origin and my family of choice, I am personally touched by your cheat sheet, appreciate the review, and feel re-energized with a renewed sense of compassion and patience for myself and those I care about as we approach…Christmas.:)
Honestly, I appreciate the review as I enter the final countdown to Christmas, and I feel re-energized with a renewed sense of compassion and patience for myself and those I care about as we approach…Christmas.:)
Christmas is coming. All those darn rituals. Then comes the lead up to New Year’s Eve.
I was reminded today of something VITAL and IMPORTANT.
How much I participate is up to me.
How much anxiety I feel is also up to me.
And may the Force Awaken in you this year regardless of your attending a “Star Wars” movie showing before the end of the year or not. :)
May the stress of holiday weeks be manageable and if not, then we hope you will be gentle with yourself and if you need support, start here. And, use the code “course-special”.