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Sense of Self Method

Origins of a Healthy Sense of Self (by Andrea Scott)

“Your Body Believes Every Word You Say” I believe your body also believes what it hears and experiences–even before it understands language. And these experiences are among the earliest seeds of a Sense of Self. From the first week my son was born, most of his naps were outside in the fresh air. I am…

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Artful Lessons From My Dad (by Guest Blogger Andrea Scott)

Of the many gifts I received from my father, one of the most endearing was his modeling of good communication. We had a large family (seven children) and my mother, one of the first female lawyers in the 1950s, had passed away from an accidental

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Thought of the Day: Saturday, June 9th, 2012

Magic Formula to help YOU turn into YOUR SELF, coming up! Next Monday! Anticipating our Blog entry for next week I invite you to memorize the crucial formula of the Sense of Self -Method: “Feel-good-about-Self.” The idea being that many of us  continue working until we “feel-good-about-ourselves.”  We then mistake that feeling or sensation for

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Will I Ever Outgrow My Parents? (part 2 of 2)

What is Internal Parental Judgment(IPJ) or Virtual Parental Judgment(VPJ)? IPJ/VPJ is the opposite of thinking with your own mind; the voices in your head that you have never questioned on the accuracy  because they stem from people you believed to be selfless and invested in your interest: parents, teachers, ex(spouses, your closest friends. As you…

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Will I Ever Outgrow My Parents? (part 1 of 2)

Between the ages of 12 and 16, I lived with my dad who had remarried a women only 12 years older than I. And I don’t think it was because she was Eastern European, that she was controlled by her parents, but she still was.  My step-mother in turn tried to control as much of…

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A Gift For Maria

Like every year, Maria passed her Christmas holidays on the beach in Mexico.  To her and her family, it was a good way to escape the Christmas rat race.  She never understood what people liked so much about Christmas anyway.  How they could agree on spending so much time, energy and money flocking to shopping…

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Anita and her dilemma

Anita is a bright young woman.  Her curly, long, dark blonde hair, in which blonder streaks light up with every motion of her somewhat childlike head, shines with good health.  Most days she would dress appropriately for the occasion at hand.  But today she feels like taking it easy.  What is the point of taking…

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My Book or My Life…

Some people get involved with big institutions like “Dahn Yoga” or “the Military” because it is so hard to manage yourself and then, at least, it is done for you. You learn a certain skill and perform that within the confines of that entity. You pay respect to those who train you to become good…

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The allegory of The Castle of Enmeshment

Far away, in a country hidden in a valley covered by fog, lies a village called Struggletown. It’s a village like any other and most villagers live a reasonably happy life: they work, do what needs to be done and on the weekends they usually find small pockets of time to do what they truly…

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