Posts Tagged ‘Substitute Sense of Self’
Are you a Workaholic? Here’s Some Sense of Self Advice
When I was younger, I had no idea that my life was not supposed to be about performing perfectly so I could feel good about myself. I don’t mean to say that doing things well so you feel satisfied is wrong. Absolutely not. But if feeling good about yourself becomes compulsive, meaning you can’t compromise on…
Read MoreIs Perfectionism Feeding Your Addiction to Approval?
Striving to be perfect is a learned behavior based on an addiction to approval. Perfectionism is all about analyzing what you contribute or achieve and believing it isn’t good enough. Perfectionism is a strategy to feed the addiction to approval. Why is that? Not because it really is not good enough, but because of your…
Read MoreWhat Happens When Nobody Talks About Mental Illness?
How many more self-inflicted deaths will it take to finally destigmatize mental illness in this country? As illustrated in a popular Ted-Ed Talk, 10 percent of American adults struggle with depression. Focusing our attention exclusively on outward manifestations of depression and mental illness, one of the most extreme examples being suicide, means we’re missing the…
Read MoreReady to Overcome Your Fear of Change?
Why do some of us struggle so much with change? A particularly relevant question in the current coronavirus disease situation we’re all facing. What’s the reasoning behind this fear of change? Keep reading for a few powerful techniques you can use to overcome this illusory fear . . . Think back to the last time…
Read MoreWhy Some People Never Suffer from Depression
Have you ever wondered why some people never suffer from depression? Confronted with some of life’s upsetting experiences (i.e., marriage breakdown, unemployment, bereavement, failure of any kind) many people suffer from depression. But others don’t. Why is this? I’ve been studying myself and my thoughts for over 30 years – wanting to understand a debilitating…
Read MoreHow to Cultivate a Healthy Sense of Self During Your Professional Life
Have you known anyone who seems withdrawn and more lonely after retiring from their professional life? This can apply to single and married retirees who choose to create a life detached from others. Once it’s no longer possible to hide behind a job and be an important “manager” or “professor,” we have to show up…
Read MoreThis Is What Happens When Anger Issues Block Your True Self
Are anger issues blocking you from your true Self? Mr. Hyde, the Incredible Hulk, Annie Wilkes from Stephen King’s Misery: what do all these characters have in common? Anger issues. They all have incredibly short tempers and get angry at the drop of a hat. In fact, many compelling characters in film and literature possess…
Read More5 New Insights to Help You Overcome Impostor Syndrome
Impostor Syndrome Happens to the Best of Us I have been scared of writing for years, but I didn’t always feel this way. When I was in elementary school, I wrote compulsively: plays, short stories, poetry, even the start of a novel. I read voraciously, and all the public librarians knew me by name. My…
Read MoreWhat Is the Motivation Behind Your Decision-Making Process?
Do you know the truth behind the decision-making process? Have you ever thought about what motivates you to take action? If you’re like many people, you may respond with overarching ambitions like success, happiness, or self-fulfillment. Maybe when it comes to decision-making you have specific goals aligned with these generalized aspirations. Do you want to…
Read MoreIllustrated Card Set for the Language of the Sense of Self Method
Ego References? Substitute Sense of Self? Vehicles? The terminology used in the Sense of Self Method takes a bit of getting used to. But as you do you begin to see them not just as explanations but as useful tools for recognizing and dealing with circumstances and suppositions that keep you separate from your Healthy…
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