The Sense of Self (SoS) Method Online Course

We know what it feels like to live for (and only take care of) other people—despite how destructive it is to our own self-worth, mental health, and financial well-being.

So many of us are addicted to approval, sleep-deprived, and terrified.

What about you? Can you relate?

If you're receptive to change and ready to discover the things that influenced your childhood development and how your past may be affecting your life right now, keep going . . .  You can figure out how to break free from what's holding you back!

And our self-healing, personal growth program will help you along your personal journey of transformation . . .

As you embark, you begin to peel back the layers of your psyche while growing quickly as the independent, authentic person you were born to be.

The Sense of Self (SoS) Method Online Course gives you everything you need to recover from the past and get (re)connected with your true self so you can thrive in the future.

It includes 9 units of online/video lessons, the Healthy Sense of Self book, a workbook, a guided journal, and access to a supportive coach and online community.

Break Free from Depression, Anxiety, and Insomnia

People all over the world are struggling with depression. There are so many people who lack a strong sense of self, which results in a tragic amount of unhappy, unhealthy people and an increased number of suicides every year. We want to change all that!

Are you ready to reconnect to your true Self, your creativity, and your highest purpose so you can start thriving rather than just surviving?

Our online course is deeply personal and psychological but delivered in a succinct, easy-to-implement way.

The SoS Method allows you to come face to face with who you really are and what you really want to achieve in this lifetime.


The Sense of Self Method Online Course is designed to help you:

  • Restore your Sense of Self - alleviating anxiety and depression;
  • Break free from the need to please others and get their approval; and
  • Develop the necessary skills to become self-confident and at peace.

You'll learn:

  • Why things are not working for you;
  • Why you do not get your desired results;
  • What you have to do to make things better; and
  • How to move forward in a new, healthier direction and live from your own heart and mind.

What you'll get:

  • Access to the online course composed of nine units spread out over nine weeks, although you can do it at your own speed;
  • A digital version of the Healthy Sense of Self book and workbook;
  • Access to online support groups;
  • Membership in our online community;
  • Group coaching calls with a SoS coach;
  • Individual, 30-minute coaching call with Antoinetta Vogels.

Staying true to your self can be incredibly challenging. But we're here to guide you, support you, and get you in touch with who you truly are.

It's our motivation to help as many people as possible with their mental health and emotional well-being.

In the course, you'll gain access to a lifetime of wisdom that, when applied, can help set you free from depression, anxiety, negative/self-defeating thoughts and living your life for others.

It may well be the best money you ever spend! 

The Online Course: Nine Training Units


Here's a roadmap of your journey.

The introduction looks into the importance of being able to sense your Self and has you consider the question of whether you see value in freeing yourself of specific old behaviors that no longer seem to serve you in the present. Sensing your self is an important skill to have if you want to live your life as the healthy, happy person you know you can be.

Craving for Approval

Unit 1 – WHY do you think you do what you do?

Unit 1 focuses on getting to the root of your behavior, and explains why that is important: you can solve many, if not all, of your life issues when you know WHY you do what you do. Why do you make certain choices and decisions? Becoming aware of this is especially useful for people who feel they are not completely in charge of their actions and behavior.

Unit 2

Unit 2 – Whose life is it, anyway?

Unit 2 offers insight into the difference between those people who have a Healthy Sense of Self compared to those who are eternally struggling to find themselves. Being born doesn’t come with a guarantee that you get to live your own life. This unit helps you answer the question: Do you have a Healthy Sense of Self or a Lack of Sense of Self?

Past future present

Unit 3 – Your past shapes your present. Is your present good enough to shape your future?

Unit 3 helps you understand what went on in your childhood. The early way you were related to by your parents affects how you relate to yourself on a subconscious level and is in part responsible for what you make of yourself during your lifetime. If left with an undeveloped sense of self, you are set up to fail. Breaking free starts with looking back at what really happened.


Unit 4 – Thoughts are seldom what they seem.

Unit 4 introduces two categories of motivation identified by the Sense of Self Method: Direct Motivation and Indirect Motivation. Understanding your motivations requires awareness of what is going on in your subconscious mind. Discerning which kind of Motivation is operating in the background of your various behaviors is the key to self-knowledge, to healing a Lack of Sense of Self, and to gaining a Restored Sense of Self.

Unit 5

Unit 5 – Are you using your life to prove that you're okay and worthy?

Unit 5 addresses why certain things play such a dominant role in your life and what is behind that. When you are unable to develop a (healthy) Sense of your Self, you adopt ways of behaving to gain acceptance from the people you believe you need approval from.

Behavior Tree

Unit 6 – Why self-sabotage can be compulsive and how to stop stunting your growth.

Unit 6 investigates what drives you to crave approval and introduces a few processes that contribute to the subconscious drama at play in those with a Lack of Sense of Self. You will discover how to shift from being focused on gaining approval to focusing on what YOU want your life to be like, based on your own conscious decisions.

Unit 7

Unit 7 – “Will I ever outgrow the need for approval?”

Unit 7 delves deeper into the role parental judgment can play in your life. Caregivers need not even be present for their opinions to linger in your mind and body. In this unit, you learn about the entanglement of parent/caregiver and child that is both the cause and the result of a Lack of Sense of Self, which puts you at risk for a lifetime of emotional exhaustion and suffering.

Unit 8

Unit 8 – “Help! I sense my Self disappearing when I don’t succeed in making others happy!”

Unit 8 brings all the information of the previous units together and clarifies what the Sense of Self Theory -- and Method -- are all about. Building on what you have learned so far, you will now see a structure you may have unconsciously created that functions as the place holder for the real self-experience. This unit poses the question: Whose happiness really matters most to you?

Unit 9

Unit 9 – Putting it all together: Are you riding an emotional rollercoaster?

Unit 9 leads you through each of the course concepts as they could apply to you. Once you manage to understand the origins of each of these elements, you will be able to effectively create lasting changes and finally break free from your addiction to approval.

Message from the Sense of Self Method Creator, Antoinetta Vogels

Before I started to investigate my own motivations I was like a buoy on an ocean of events: totally at the mercy of what happened around me and in me. I was stuck in reaction mode. When things didn't go my way I would blow up and blame the world and everyone in it.

Writing my book saved me from all that negativity. Reading my book still brings me back to who I am deep down inside. It reminds me that I'm only human, that there is nothing wrong with me, and I don’t really need to have things be perfect all the time!

If you follow the path I am laying out for you here, you will soon find that you are able to make different choices that will lead to different outcomes. Your quality of life will improve as long as you stay connected to your Self! Here's all you need to do:

  • Sign up for the Sense of Self Online Course
  • Set aside 15 – 20 minutes every day
  • Get rid of unwanted conditioning that keeps leading to the same unwanted results
  • Become the best version of yourself and get the results you want!

That's it!

Are you ready to get out of your true path and purpose? Are you willing to step out of the prison of living up to other people’s needs and expectations? Ready to finally be in charge of your life?

This course is both a first step toward getting there and a lasting resource to prevent you from slipping back into old habits. It is tough to take charge of your Self, but the outcome is worth the hard work. I was able to do it, and so can you. Think of what you would be able to realize when you truly are the master of your own life.

Imagine the satisfaction of having used your potential to the fullest, having cultivated your relationships to the max, and having raised your children in such a way that they stay your friends for life. All of that and much more can be the result of taking the joining our online course now!

What People Have to Say . . . 

“Antoinetta Vogels creates a safe place for exploration of her method on the Healthy Sense of Self. Her empathetic approach to identification of a sense of self that is either absent or an imposter was revealing to me personally. Her work resonated with my journey of healing from past hurts and habits nudging me to go deeper. After attending only one lecture I have identified a new one hang-up that I feel I can truly overcome experiencing peace in my nature. I am so excited about her upcoming book. It will restore the peace that many are searching for in their lives.”

- A.C., Certified Life Coach

“The Sense of Self Course helped me to understand why I feel and do the things I do also It has helped me see there's a reason and an answer to it. I feel as though it has given me the tools I need to help myself.”

- D from Florida

“Being exposed to Antoinetta Vogels’ Sense of Self Method helped me understand better a few of my clients as a business-coach and also some friends who I suspect suffer from depression.  I also gained another, much more understanding, way to look at people who make bad choices.  I suspect that when I have to deal with difficult personal issues in the future, which are unfortunately inevitable for anyone, the awareness of my Sense of Self will be very helpful.”

- P.H., COO, Pro/Vision Coaching, Inc.

“I am somewhat of a skeptical person but my wife pointed out to me that Antoinetta Vogels’ Sense of Self Approach really creates unexpected openings in solving quite a number of childrearing questions. By becoming aware of our own hidden agenda we are able to make different decisions that greatly benefit our children’s and our family's well-being.  More recently the Sense of Self Approach to aging has helped me personally cope with the unexpected, and unexpectedly rapid terminal diagnosis of an elderly relative who is very important to me.  Rather than labor under the distractions false expectations of what ‘a good son should do’ I’ve been able to help where help was needed without ignoring my very real sadness.”

- D.I., Entrepreneur

“There is hardly anything more basic about us than whether our sense of being a ‘self’ is dependent on others’ approval, or is healthy and solid within us. Through the courage of investigating her own sense of self so deeply, and developing ways to make it more healthy Antoinetta Vogels’ highly original work has the potential to profoundly improve not just individual lives, but our whole human ways of relating.”

- Rev. Alia Zara Aurami, Ph.D., Minister

“Working with Antoinetta Vogels has provided me powerful insight into my own physical and psychological ailments.  Through frequent discussions with her, I am learning to find and restore my sense of Self.  Antoinetta is extremely passionate about her work in helping others, and she frequently takes time out to check-in with how I am doing, truly doing, on all levels, and will give helpful advice when appropriate.  I’m grateful that our paths have met on this journey to find one’s true Self.”

- L.B., Executive Assistant to Antoinetta Vogels

“Antoinetta Vogels's gentle counsel on how to restore one’s sense of self (a healthy vibrant one!) continues to empower me to be a more peaceful and accepting person. She has made sense of more chaotic moments for me with humor and compassion and I am truly grateful to work with her.”

- D.D., Founder of Authentic Writing Provokes

“This is the best course I have ever completed. So well explained. I have to admit it's very in-depth will take a lot of effort. Something worth working on. A lifestyle. Lifelong. Something you can work on and be ever so proud as for some of us. As I didn't naturally inherit this. Takes guts. Determination and we have to work hard for this. It's not taken for granted. Thank you for teaching me so much and showing me the way to restore my Sense of Self. We somehow have to fight for this. It's a tough old ride through life with a substitute sense of self. I appreciate your kindness, knowledge, and patience. I'm thankful. I highly recommend.”

- Vickie Turner, Australia

We believe everyone has the right to a Healthy Sense of Self.

grant application for sos course

That's why we have a Grant Program for people experiencing financial difficulty.  Finances shouldn't be a barrier to mental and emotional well-being.  If you need assistance please fill out our application form.  We may request your assistance via online volunteer time as an exchange.