Thank you for taking our quiz! From your answers to this quiz, it appears that you have an Emerging Sense of Self.
You are close to having a complete view of who you are and what you want. Although you sometimes struggle with wanting to please others, you mostly live for yourself. You know what it feels like to be down sometimes, but you don’t dwell permanently in depression. Stress and negativity might pop up once in a while, but you keep treading water, and you’ve got it all together.
Or do you?
There is still a part of you that isn’t complete. A part of you that doesn’t feel whole, content and satisfied with your life and who you are. You are so close to experiencing the everlasting happiness that you can sometimes feel it . . . but then it fades. Not being one to give up easily you keep going with a positive attitude. Not fully knowing how to “get there.”
Here are a few action steps you can do right now to move you closer to your authentic, healthy Sense of Self:
- Recognize that you are an authentic, whole person, regardless of your level of success.
When you move through life with your Substitute Sense of Self, you’re living with an addiction to the feel-good state. And from here, achieving personal success can feel like an insurmountable challenge.
In your futile hunt for approval, you’ve internalized other people’s opinions on how to be successful in life. You’re always pushing yourself to fulfill impossible ideals and struggling with your “Fear of Annihilation.”
- Set clear objectives for your Self
You can reach your true goals in life when you are not distracted by hidden goals that appear vital, but unduly take up most of your time and energy . . . and keep you away from doing things that truly matter.
- Stop and take care of yourself when you’re hungry, angry, lonely, or tired (HALT).
By practicing HALT, you’ll develop a keen sense of self-awareness.
- Look within and rediscover your young self.
Go back in time and look for small pleasant memories that bring you back to the awareness of your truest Self.
Dare to look back, to look into your past, dare to get started working out the struggles you have experienced on your life path, allow yourself to tackle them (again) . . . and by doing so, understand who you are.
Go back every now and again to sense the TRUE YOU. Seek the pleasant memories, daydreams, and pleasures you had as a child.
You may not realize it, but you still have that joy in you right now. It may be buried deep within you– inundated by noise, dark clouds, and heavy thoughts, but there’s a little sparkle, deep inside you, that you can always return to!
Are you ready to start living a life that's truly yours?
A Substitute Sense of Self sets you up for failure in relationships and in your career. What’s worse is that if you grow up without a sense of Self your children will likely experience the same because our conditioning in childhood runs as a subconscious program unless we take active steps to change it.
What are the Benefits of a Restored Sense of Self?
Here are some of the issues we’ve found the Healthy Sense of Self Method have helped people with.
Addiction:
- Decreased substance abuse; healthier habits
- Less compulsiveness
- Higher self-esteem
Aging:
- Better overall health
- More fulfillment
- Fewer feelings of loneliness
Anxiety and Depression:
- Fewer panic attacks
- Feel better, think clearer, feel more alive and engaged
- Increased joy of living, happiness, success
- More self-accepting, and accepting of others
Insomnia:
- Fall asleep faster
- Sleep better
- More vibrant
- More Energy
- More integrated in society
Parenting:
- More patience
- Better child rearing
- Fewer rages and family upsets
- More respect for your children and from your children
Relationships:
- Better chance to find love and friendship
- Easier interactions in both social and professional settings
- Less controlling of others and of situations
- More compassion, empathy, and tolerance; less hostility
- Better companionship
- Lower divorce rate
So what exactly are we talking about when we refer to a Sense of Self?
- A Sense of Self is defined as a conscious and/or subconscious awareness of being your own person. “I” is not just a word; it is filled with meaning. “Self” always exists in every person but some are more aware of their “I” than others. Depending on what happens or not(!) in childhood, this Sense of Self can be fully developed or left underdeveloped, in which case a person tends to develop an unhealthy substitute in order to experience some form of self, which becomes the root cause of great suffering.
- Healthy Sense of Self is defined as the ability to recognize your authentic Self as your “I” and fully identify with—as the “I-who-experiences”—your own body, mind, and emotions with your own life in such a way that you don’t feel there is a separation between any of these aspects that form your Self.
- Lack of Sense of Self is defined as the absence of a naturally developed, ongoing inner knowing that “I” exist, as myself, independently of anyone’s opinion of me. A Lack of Sense of Self inevitably leads to attempted compensation through the development of an unhealthy (false) Sense of Self, because human beings require some kind of Self-experience to function in the world.
- Substitute Sense of Self is defined as a fleeting moment of “Feeling-good-about-self” that fills in the hole left by a Lack of Sense of Self, and functions as a placeholder for the real “I” experience. This system starts to develop from early childhood on when caregivers do not relate to the child as an autonomous individual but rather as an extension of themselves. Being dependent on a Substitute Sense of Self for your self-experience comes down to being the slave of a compulsive drive to “Feel-good-about-self” through achievement-based approval.
- Restored Sense of Self™ is defined as an awareness and inner knowing of who and what you are, developed as a result of HEALTHYSENSEOFSELF’s healing method. It is a steady awareness of existing as a human being, separate from the primary caregiver and not dependent on the outcome of achievements and fulfilling conditions for the approval from others. A Restored Sense of Self functions as a healthy psycho-emotional backbone and reference point in your life, an inner home of freedom and self-love. It is initially the result of a conscious effort (reconditioning), but overtime it becomes internalized and subconscious.
When someone like you reads our book or takes our course, they very quickly realize where the small adjustments in thinking and patterning need to be made to shift from an emerging sense of Self to a healthy sense of Self. You’re so close - you probably don’t even realize how close you are. But if you could get any closer on your own, you likely wouldn’t be here, taking a quiz about how strong your sense of Self is!
The Sense of Self Method is precisely what you need to get you through the homestretch and across the finish line. Not only can you experience lasting happiness, peace and fulfillment. You can take your relationships with others to a whole new level.
Experiencing deep, pure love for friends and family. Get that promotion you’ve always wanted at work. Be a better parent.
Your health and well-being are priceless. It’s the most important thing you can do for yourself.
Are You Ready to Say YES to…
- More self-confidence
- Overall higher quality of life
- Comfortable with facing your Self; more self-accepting
- Ability to self-realize and live life to the fullest
- Better equipped to deal with criticism – less over-reactive
- Feeling comfortable in your own skin
- Comfortable being in most crowds
- Comfortable being by your self
- Know what you want
- Better flow in your life
- Better aligned with your blueprint