Posts by Antoinetta Vogels
My Recent, Sleepless Night and Bout with Self-Sabotage
Last night, I woke up around three in the morning and stepped into the other room to lie down. I do that often because I still have a hard time falling back to sleep when my man next to me makes little noises or moves around. It always worked . . . but not this…
Read MoreBlack History and Crucial Knowledge for Building a Healthy Sense of Self
Dear reader, I am thrilled to introduce you to an essential book by William H.T. Bailey called, Building a Healthy Sense of Self: Essential Knowledge for African People. With his book, Bailey hoped to have provided a resource and healing tool for individuals of African descent who live in a country notorious for racial injustice…
Read MoreIs Perfectionism Feeding Your Addiction to Approval?
Striving to be perfect is a learned behavior based on an addiction to approval. Perfectionism is all about analyzing what you contribute or achieve and believing it isn’t good enough. Perfectionism is a strategy to feed the addiction to approval. Why is that? Not because it really is not good enough, but because of your…
Read MoreWhat’s the Magic Formula? Dare to Look within Your Self
What’s the Magic Formula for Your Healthy Sense of Self? In many of my articles, you learn what a healthy sense of self is and how you can tackle many problems in your life by restoring your Sense of Self (SoS). In this blog article, I want to take a different approach. We’re in the…
Read MoreWhat Is a Healthy Sense of Self?
What is a healthy sense of self? Self-confidence, Self-love, Self-worth . . . you need all these to have a good life, right? But what if you no longer have any connection with your sense of SELF at all? What if you have no idea how your “Self” actually feels, who your Self actually is…
Read MoreHow to Maintain Healthy Relationships with Your Close Friends and Family
Maintaining healthy relationships can be a challenge. Reflect, for a moment, on the importance of having healthy relationships with your loved ones. The relationship could be your partner, sibling, parent, husband, wife, or child . . . As you think about it, you may find that there’s always room for more flexibility and more acceptance.…
Read MoreHow to Find Your Me Time During an Ongoing Pandemic
Find Your Me Time — How to Make time for yourself during the pandemic. Spring is in the air, and for a lot of people, spring break seems daunting or was postponed. You want to go on vacation, but is it actually possible? Do you have enough money? Will you be safe out there? You…
Read MoreStay Connected to Your Authentic Self!
I would like to acknowledge the changing global reality caused by the outbreak of this coronavirus and how it may affect your sense of self. The immense threat to our health causes us to worry way beyond what’s good for us. How now can we distinguish all the hype from reality and truth? What can…
Read More3 Ways to Use the SoS Method to Cope with Life’s Greatest Challenges
If I didn’t have a strong sense of self for life challenges, I’d be functioning at a different level. And without the Sense of Self (SoS) Method, I would not be in a good place right now. Life could be making me feel very sad, and I could be feeling depressed and devastated about what…
Read More3 Techniques to Help You Cope with Stressful Situations
Autumn is a time of transition; a time for big change and uncertainty. The “back to school” season can also bring on unwanted anxiety and stressful situations. Fall sometimes harbors a certain emptiness that can leave us feeling exposed and anxious for what’s next . . . The Oxford dictionary defines anxiety as “a feeling of…
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