perfectionism addiction to approval

Striving to be perfect is a learned behavior based on an addiction to approval. Perfectionism is all about analyzing what you contribute or achieve and believing it isn’t good enough.  Perfectionism is a strategy to feed the addiction to approval. Why is that? Not because it really is not good enough, but because of your…

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what is a healthy sense of self

What is a healthy sense of self? Self-confidence, Self-love, Self-worth . . . you need all these to have a good life, right? But what if you no longer have any connection with your sense of SELF at all? What if you have no idea how your “Self” actually feels, who your Self actually is…

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stay connected to your authentic self

I would like to acknowledge the changing global reality caused by the outbreak of this coronavirus and how it may affect your sense of self. The immense threat to our health causes us to worry way beyond what’s good for us.   How now can we distinguish all the hype from reality and truth? What can…

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stressful situations

Autumn is a time of transition; a time for big change and uncertainty. The “back to school” season can also bring on unwanted anxiety and stressful situations. Fall sometimes harbors a certain emptiness that can leave us feeling exposed and anxious for what’s next . . . The Oxford dictionary defines anxiety as “a feeling of…

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suffer from depression

Have you ever wondered why some people never suffer from depression? Confronted with some of life’s upsetting experiences (i.e., marriage breakdown, unemployment, bereavement, failure of any kind) many people suffer from depression. But others don’t. Why is this? I’ve been studying myself and my thoughts for over 30 years – wanting to understand a debilitating…

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