Posts by Antoinetta Vogels
School Shootings and Root Cause of Violence in America
How Do We End Gun Violence in America? It happened again. On May 24, 2022, while people all around the world are still recovering from the effects of the Covid-19 pandemic and dreading a new variant, a young man shot at and took the lives of nineteen children and two teachers at Robb Elementary School…
Read MoreBe Free to Be Who You Truly Are
“The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You trade in your sense for an act. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask. There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on…
Read MoreAre you a Workaholic? Here’s Some Sense of Self Advice
When I was younger, I had no idea that my life was not supposed to be about performing perfectly so I could feel good about myself. I don’t mean to say that doing things well so you feel satisfied is wrong. Absolutely not. But if feeling good about yourself becomes compulsive, meaning you can’t compromise on…
Read MoreMy Sleepless Night and Bout with Self-Sabotage
Last night, I woke up around three in the morning and stepped into the other room to lie down. I do that often because I still have a hard time falling back to sleep when my man next makes little noises or moves around in the bed. It always worked . . . but not…
Read MoreBlack History and Crucial Knowledge for Building a Healthy Sense of Self
Dear reader, I am thrilled to introduce you to an essential book by William H.T. Bailey called, Building a Healthy Sense of Self: Essential Knowledge for African People. With his book, Bailey hoped to have provided a resource and healing tool for individuals of African descent who live in a country notorious for racial injustice…
Read MoreIs Perfectionism Feeding Your Addiction to Approval?
Striving to be perfect is a learned behavior based on an addiction to approval. Perfectionism is all about analyzing what you contribute or achieve and believing it isn’t good enough. Perfectionism is a strategy to feed the addiction to approval. Why is that? Not because it really is not good enough, but because of your…
Read MoreWhat’s the Magic Formula? Dare to Look within Your Self
What’s the Magic Formula for Your Healthy Sense of Self? In many of my articles, you learn what a healthy sense of self is and how you can tackle many problems in your life by restoring your Sense of Self (SoS). In this blog article, I want to take a different approach. Most likely you…
Read MoreWhat Is a Healthy Sense of Self?
What is a healthy sense of self? Self-confidence, Self-love, Self-worth . . . you need all these to have a good life, right? But what if you no longer have any connection with your sense of SELF at all? What if you have no idea how your “Self” actually feels, who your Self actually is…
Read MoreHow to Maintain Healthy Relationships with Your Close Friends and Family
Maintaining healthy relationships can be a challenge. Reflect, for a moment, on the importance of having healthy relationships with your loved ones. The relationship could be your partner, sibling, parent, husband, wife, or child . . . As you think about it, you may find that there’s always room for more flexibility and more acceptance.…
Read MoreHow to Find Your Me Time During an Ongoing Pandemic
Find Your Me Time — How to Make time for yourself during the pandemic. Spring is in the air, and for a lot of people, spring break seems daunting or was postponed. You want to go on vacation, but is it actually possible? Do you have enough money? Will you be safe out there? You…
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