Motivation that is ordinary, simple, and based in the present. Direct Motivation is an indicator of a Healthy Sense of Self in that the person is driven to do or avoid things in a normal, healthy way. The incentive is pure, simple, direct, and without Inner Conflicts or Hidden Agendas.
The motivation is geared towards the content of the behavior: you wash the dishes to get the dishes clean, not to impress your mother in order to fulfill some requirement based on strategies your inner child is operating from to get approval.
(Compare with Indirect Motivation)
There is no goal other than the thing or action itself, which is done for its own sake, or iow for the direct, obvious, ordinary result of the action. Nothing is at stake subconsciously in contrast to what is the case for Indirect Motivation No major (Substitute SoS-oriented) fears are operating and there is a basically relaxed quality to the motivation, not the compulsive, addictive quality of Indirect Motivation.
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