Sense of Self Method

Will I Ever Outgrow My Parents? (part 2 of 2)

What is Internal Parental Judgment(IPJ) or Virtual Parental Judgment(VPJ)? IPJ/VPJ is the opposite of thinking with your own mind; the voices in your head that you have never questioned on the accuracy  because they stem from people you believed to be selfless and invested in your interest: parents, teachers, ex(spouses, your closest friends. As you…

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Will I Ever Outgrow My Parents? (part 1 of 2)

Between the ages of 12 and 16, I lived with my dad who had remarried a women only 12 years older than I. And I don’t think it was because she was Eastern European, that she was controlled by her parents, but she still was.  My step-mother in turn tried to control as much of…

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A Gift For Maria

Like every year, Maria passed her Christmas holidays on the beach in Mexico.  To her and her family, it was a good way to escape the Christmas rat race.  She never understood what people liked so much about Christmas anyway.  How they could agree on spending so much time, energy and money flocking to shopping…

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Anita and her dilemma

Anita is a bright young woman.  Her curly, long, dark blonde hair, in which blonder streaks light up with every motion of her somewhat childlike head, shines with good health.  Most days she would dress appropriately for the occasion at hand.  But today she feels like taking it easy.  What is the point of taking…

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My Book or My Life…

Some people get involved with big institutions like “Dahn Yoga” or “the Military” because it is so hard to manage yourself and then, at least, it is done for you. You learn a certain skill and perform that within the confines of that entity. You pay respect to those who train you to become good…

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The allegory of The Castle of Enmeshment

Far away, in a country hidden in a valley covered by fog, lies a village called Struggletown. It’s a village like any other and most villagers live a reasonably happy life: they work, do what needs to be done and on the weekends they usually find small pockets of time to do what they truly…

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