Posts by Antoinetta Vogels
Sense of Self and Clear Objectives
People with a Healthy Sense of Self have innumerable advantages; the art of setting clear objectives is one of them. If you don’t have to spend a lot of time and energy finding your Self, you have lots of spare time, attention, and energy to fine tune the issues in your life. That pays off.…
Read MoreOld Men in Government – a true representation of the people?
The circle of life Healthy Sense of Self assumes that every human being is the embodiment of a soul or spirit. When this incarnation takes place, the little person who is born has to learn how to feel at home in that body. He or she has to be encouraged to carry their own weight.…
Read MoreA generation gap, is it unavoidable?
Baby Boomers, Generation X, Y-ers, Millennials: these are names that denote a demographic of people who were born around a particular time, and who therefore come of age as a group as well. There are specific trends in every age group, and no matter the generation, children are expected to rebel against their parents. Because…
Read MoreNarcissistic repair, how to go about it…
Narcissus – it sounds so beautiful but the consequences of a narcissistic attitude are much less so. Narcissus is a figure from Greek mythology. He was a beauty, who found himself so beautiful and important that he kept staring at his reflection in the water of a small lake. Eventually he perished because of it.…
Read MoreTRUMP and NARCISSISTIC ABUSE
We do not want our narcissistic parent to rule our life – we do everything we can to become the masters of our lives and rightly so because we only have one life to live: “My life is mine, and mine alone!” YET, there are still many so people who prefer to be beaten by…
Read MoreNarcissistic Abuse, an antidote against it.
It’s not your fault! If you are eager to step back into the groove of trying to make it work at all cost – Often at the cost of your Self! Trying to make your relationship work, your marriage, your job, your behavior, or that change in attitude… It is not your fault To…
Read MoreSelf-destructive Behavior
It is a loaded term: self-destructive behavior. In essence what it comes down to: doing things that are bad for you. The more often you do them, the weaker you make yourself. The worst kind of self-destructive behavior is suicide, although you might wonder what is worse: letting yourself slide downward until you feel so miserable that…
Read MoreIs That Negative Self-talk or an Internalized Parental Voice?
Has Your Internalized Parental Voice (IPV) Made a Negative Impact on Your Life? Self-talk is healthy if it is positive, but what if this inner voice seems to criticize you? Self-talk is fine if it leads to a better version of yourself but what if it gives you the feeling that you’re never really good…
Read MoreYour Self in Your Relationship
If you are not firmly bonded with your Self and something you can rely on you can bet that it will reflect in your relationship. Even during the excitement of the first date a bad relationship with your Self can spoil things. For example, have you ever noticed that you start to perspire when you…
Read MoreThis Is Exactly Why You’re Having Difficulty Sleeping
Even though I’ve overcome the sleep disorder I had when I was a young mother, I still have nights that I don’t fall asleep . . . or I wake up after a couple of hours — and that’s all the sleep I’ll get for the night. Even though I overcame insomnia, I still sometimes…
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