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20 Most Recent Post Titles with Excerpts
A bare list of links to the last 20 blog posts with linked titles, author and date, a short excerpt, and a continue-reading link.
War is what most people would like to see eliminated first thing on this earth. War disrupts people’s lives, tares our living environment apart, cripples and kills innocent people. Very few of us actively choose war so mostly it is imposed on us, civilians. War is a command given in a harsh and brutal tone…
Continue reading...This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man. From “Hamlet” ~ Shakespeare I want you to be everything that’s you, deep at the center of your being. Confucius
Continue reading...“If a positive model of desire is established early, then the baby will grow up with natural desires that match its true needs. A psychologically healthy person, in fact, can be defined as someone whose desires actually produce happiness. But if the baby is imprinted with the opposite notion, that its desires are shameful and…
Continue reading...Be there to dance – be with him Be there to dance – be with her About a few decades ago I was trying to make sense of dancing the tango. I went to dance lessons and learned the steps: walk to the cross – tango, stop. I have loved the music for my whole…
Continue reading...“It takes two to Tango!” We all know that expression don’t we? What we didn’t know is that it takes not just two random people with a lack of Sense of Self and dependent on a million things for their Substitute Sense of Self; it takes two individuals with a Healthy Sense of Self to…
Continue reading...Of the many gifts I received from my father, one of the most endearing was his modeling of good communication. We had a large family (seven children) and my mother, one of the first female lawyers in the 1950s, had passed away from an accidental
Continue reading...Survival in a lion cub is an instinct that he blindly follows using all his power and flexibility to not end up as a prey to other predators in the food chain we are all part of. What makes us human beings believe that we can do with less? Imagine you would put all that jungle power behind…
Continue reading...You have an upcoming performance. You are well prepared but anywhere from a day (or several days) to 5 minutes before the event begins your hands become clammy, you start to shake,
Continue reading...There is a “sandwich board” outside a local church near where I live that makes me grin and chuckle every time I drive by. EVERY TIME. “The Universe wants to give you what you are thinking about.” So, what are you thinking about most of your waking hours? Is your life about a performance for…
Continue reading...Do you remember how it used to be in the olden days? Walking from one doctor’s office to the next to find a cure for your condition – going through the routines of describing your medical history to yet the next counselor – trying yet another medication … For a brief moment you think that…
Continue reading...Magic Formula to help YOU turn into YOUR SELF, coming up! Next Monday! Anticipating our Blog entry for next week I invite you to memorize the crucial formula of the Sense of Self -Method: “Feel-good-about-Self.” The idea being that many of us continue working until we “feel-good-about-ourselves.” We then mistake that feeling or sensation for
Continue reading...What is Internal Parental Judgment(IPJ) or Virtual Parental Judgment(VPJ)? IPJ/VPJ is the opposite of thinking with your own mind; the voices in your head that you have never questioned on the accuracy because they stem from people you believed to be selfless and invested in your interest: parents, teachers, ex(spouses, your closest friends. As you…
Continue reading...Transformation My mind is a powerful tool. The thoughts I think and the memories I recall shape my life experience. In the Bible, we are encouraged to “be transformed by the renewing of your minds.” I take this to heart, and it has a powerful effect on my life. When I choose life-affirming thoughts, I…
Continue reading...Between the ages of 12 and 16, I lived with my dad who had remarried a women only 12 years older than I. And I don’t think it was because she was Eastern European, that she was controlled by her parents, but she still was. My step-mother in turn tried to control as much of…
Continue reading...In a perfect world, upon being born we would be loved for simply being born. In a perfect world, upon being born we would be allowed to become ourselves. In a perfect world, we do not live. I find this quote both resonating with me as I resist some of its imagery.
Continue reading...Here is a real good way to make Firepole Marketing work for you: Dare to see yourself naked! How do you (honestly) feel about marketing? Love it? Hate it? Undecided? Let’s discuss it awhile and stay open minded for the duration of this writing. Please. If I were to say that “how you feel about…
Continue reading...My mother was a very strict woman. She set very high standards for herself and therefor also for us, my four siblings and myself. Not an easy task if you consider we were born in war-crippled Holland during and shortly after WWII. She stood on etiquette and good table manners. She valued good schooling and…
Continue reading...“Verdomme” zegt de stem in mijn hoofd. “Dacht ik nou echt net die niet zo tactvolle gedachte omdat ik “Eric” op het pad zag lopen dat ik voor mezelf had willen hebben?” Ja, inderdaad. Ik heb onvriendelijk gedacht over een ander mens om half acht ‘s morgens – als de dag nieuw is en er…
Continue reading...Here are three ways to deal with anger: 1) Anger the sort of energy that dissipates when you do deep breathing 2) If anger comes from the past see it for what it is: a familiar face from the past that you do not like in your present. See it as a foreign object outside…
Continue reading...Have you ever felt cheated by your own body? Ever feel like you want to yell at your body but know that you better stay good friends with it, so you don’t. This morning I felt this way, and I felt so cheated. After 25 years of struggling with insomnia I finally slept well but…
Continue reading...20 Most Recent Post Titles
A bare list of links to the last 20 blog posts.